Rekindling The Spirit of Love in Christmas


The true meaning of the holidays is one of joy, love, peace, and happiness. Cultivate a child-like awe and appreciation and have a joyous holiday!  Here’s a call to shift gears and reclaim what should be a time of appreciation, excitement, joy, and peace. Make up your mind that this is going to be your happiest holiday season ever. Your decision to emphasize the positive can reclaim a season that is supposed to bring out the best in us, rather than becoming a stressful time. The truth is that this time of year offers us a wonderful opportunity to rekindle the spirit of love and living life to the fullest.  Here are a few tips to remind yourself.

  • I’ll let the holidays flow, rather than trying to make them fit into a fixed schedule.
  • I’ll remember that people are more important than things.
  • I’ll relax my expectations for myself and others this year.
  • I’m going to live in the present moment and enjoy each activity for itself instead of always thinking about what is ahead of me.
  • I’m going to approach the holidays with a sense of joyful anticipation and wonder, just like I did when I was a child.

This life is a miracle, each and every particle of it, and the holiday season is a celebration of the miraculousness of it all.  Merry Christmas from my home to yours……. Share the joy of the love that fills your heart.

How To Start A Meditation Practice







Many people try to start a daily meditation practice, but they never get started because they think that there are rules to follow or they worry they are not doing it right. There is no right way to meditate. And there are so many wonderful benefits to it. We become calmer, we think more clearly and make better decisions and our stress levels decrease tremendously. Meditation love and supports you each day and is also where we can manifest miracles in our lives.  At least once a day I sit quietly, breathe deeply and go within to connect with that deep, inner, unchanging part of myself. Here resides wisdom and knowledge. Meditating is a joy for me as I connect with my inner place of tranquility. I always come back to the present moment refreshed and renewed and ready for the rest of my day.  You can start with a simple 5 minutes in the morning or in the evening, whichever works best for you.   Dim the lights, light a candle if you wish, put on some meditation music and sit quietly and allow yourself to just be for the next 5 – 20 minutes.  Don’t worry about the time, just keep doing it, your practice is your practice so never compare it to someone else’s.  It is about slowing down and connecting with yourself and letting the outside noise go.  Affirm with me… The serenity and safety I seek is already within me.

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Breaking Free from Difficult People


How do we navigate our way through the fields of difficult people in a mindful, peaceful way?  Anything you do to improve your life always has to with looking at yourself, because you are the only thing you can control.  We all deal with the stress and difficulties of the world, but how can we do this without being robbed of our joy and sanity?  Here are ways that I try to deal with people that I find difficult to deal with.

  1. Realize when you’re dealing with an unreasonable person is to keep your composure. Trying to alter their point of view or explain is mute.  I will not engage in a conversation that is one sided.  I usually politely say “I don’t think you and I will see eye to eye on this and because I respect your opinion, I think we should just let this be.”  I then politely excuse myself.
  2. When you feel agitation arise it is very important to move out of that train of thought.  Let it go.  Use your energy more productively that brings feelings and emotions of joy and happiness, there is no need to stay in a negative state.
  3. Life is so challenging and we all have judgments about other people and situations.  I try to avoid conversations that engage in talking about someone else negatively.  I usually bring up a response to shift the conversation to a positive state.  Example:  someone is talking about a friend or family member and things that don’t like, I would interject “have you tried talking to them about it?”, “what else can you do so you don’t continue to have these feelings?”.  This changes the conversation to one of helping rather undermining.  It is also a subtle reminder of the negativity.  To live peacefully, we have to refrain from engaging in gossip, talking negatively about someone when they are not around.
  4. Learn to change the subject.  When you’re around people that are gossiping or talking about someone, shift the conversation by asking one of them something about themselves.  Change the focus of the conversation to something positive.  This steps requires awareness.  Recognize when the negative talk starts and shift to an uplifting message or topic.
  5. I am very committed to my core beliefs and never appreciate when someone tries to change who I am.  With that being said, I extend that same respect to everyone else.  This is when you use discernment to choose the people you want to associate with.  If a conversation is leading to an argument or disagreement I just end it (refer to #1).  If it seems just differing opinions but not hostile I work towards changing the subject (see #4).
  6. We all have to attend social settings or functions that require us to be around people that we typically have nothing in common and lack the ability to relate with one another.  Before you leave for the function, internally set the intention to be one of good, don’t think about the things that can go wrong, intend to offer hope, love and joy will.  If things get uncomfortable, simply excuse yourself, engaging will only bring you more suffering.

In closing, I just want to say how important it is to you, your personal resonance, to remain at peace, filled with joy and love.  In doing so, we can be a strong calming force in a world that needs all the love and positive reinforcement we can offer.  Choose to be a messenger of hope, love and peace.

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Don’t Waste Time


Affirm with me….. Today I live with passion, joy and purpose.  Your heart is the best tool to access your true purpose and passion. Ask yourself what you love? Start taking steps to do what you love. When you are inspired and connected to your happy self, inspiration fills your heart and soul. When you lead from your heart, you are naturally more joyful and motivated to explore. By doing what you love, you will be inspired and gain insights into what brings you the most joy.  

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Where Are You Putting Your Energy?

88f46cbbabf335fb073c71ff9fe40603We all have complained and grumbled about things.  If you think about it, when you are complaining does it really do anything for you in that moment?  Does it make things better?  Does it change anything?  The way to moving out of the negative state or place is to focus our attention on events on things that we want to accomplish.  When we give our attention to those things, they have a chance of coming to fruition.  Contemplate complaining, the only thing that comes to fruition is gossip, more complaining and you still have the problem.  How do you decide where to give your time and energy?

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Look at what is going on in your life right now. Where is your energy going, which wolf are you feeding? Is it anger, envy, regret or is it joy, peace, hope and faith?  I hope you found this helpful in your Journey and below is additional work to help you further in your Journey, simply click on the image and explore.

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Remember to Smile your day will be Brighter….. Darlene ♥

Thank You, Thank You, Thank You!

    “Begin your day feeling grateful.  Be grateful for the bed you just slept in, the roof over your head, the carpet or the floor under your feet, the running water, the soap, your shower, your toothbrush, your clothes, your shoes, the refrigerator that keeps your food cold, the car that you drive, your job, your friends.  Be grateful for the stores that make it so easy to buy the things you need, the restaurants, the utilities, services and electrical appliances that make your life effortless.  Be grateful for the magazines and books that you read.  Be grateful for the chair that you sit on, and the pavement that you walk on.  Be grateful for the weather, the sun, the sky, the birds, the trees, the grass, the rain and the flowers.  Thank you, Thank You, Thank You!” ~ Rhonda Byrne – The Secret