The true meaning of the holidays is one of joy, love, peace, and happiness. Cultivate a child-like awe and appreciation and have a joyous holiday! Here’s a call to shift gears and reclaim what should be a time of appreciation, excitement, joy, and peace. Make up your mind that this is going to be your happiest holiday season ever. Your decision to emphasize the positive can reclaim a season that is supposed to bring out the best in us, rather than becoming a stressful time. The truth is that this time of year offers us a wonderful opportunity to rekindle the spirit of love and living life to the fullest. Here are a few tips to remind yourself.
- I’ll let the holidays flow, rather than trying to make them fit into a fixed schedule.
- I’ll remember that people are more important than things.
- I’ll relax my expectations for myself and others this year.
- I’m going to live in the present moment and enjoy each activity for itself instead of always thinking about what is ahead of me.
- I’m going to approach the holidays with a sense of joyful anticipation and wonder, just like I did when I was a child.
This life is a miracle, each and every particle of it, and the holiday season is a celebration of the miraculousness of it all. Merry Christmas from my home to yours……. Share the joy of the love that fills your heart.
If you have been following my work for sometime, you know how much I admire the work of Wayne Dyer. I just recently started studying his work on “Living the Wisdom of the Tao”. The Tao (pronounced Dao) means the way, the path, it is an active and holistic practice of the natural order of Nature and its universal awakening. I wanted to touch on the fact that we live in a celebrity obsessed world and how the lesson of Obscurity needs to be shared. We live in a world where people need to constantly be noticed, everything is being done to be noticed. “Notice Me, Notice Me, Notice Me”. Verse 36 of “The Tao Te Ching” states:
The lesson here is called the wisdom of obscurity. The gentle outlasts the strong. The obscure outlasts the obvious.
Do you have the capacity to get passed that need of “Notice Me”? Can you seek out obscurity by suppressing any desires for attention or recognition for the things you do? True nobility is being better than you use to be. A willingness to do good things anonymously and the desire to continue to grow and share your wisdom and help others recognize that to be obscure is the way to true peace and happiness. Become less obsessed with your importance, simply share and give. “The Tao does nothing and leaves nothing undone”. Stay humble and allow everything to come to you, live free and trust your source. “Why is the sea a king of 100 streams? Because it lies below them”.
That which shrinks Must first expand.
That which fails Must first be strong.
That which is cast down Must first be raised.
Before receiving There must be giving.
This is called perception of the nature of things.
Soft and weak overcome hard and strong.
– Tao Te Ching by Lao Tsu
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How do we navigate our way through the fields of difficult people in a mindful, peaceful way? Anything you do to improve your life always has to with looking at yourself, because you are the only thing you can control. We all deal with the stress and difficulties of the world, but how can we do this without being robbed of our joy and sanity? Here are ways that I try to deal with people that I find difficult to deal with.
- Realize when you’re dealing with an unreasonable person is to keep your composure. Trying to alter their point of view or explain is mute. I will not engage in a conversation that is one sided. I usually politely say “I don’t think you and I will see eye to eye on this and because I respect your opinion, I think we should just let this be.” I then politely excuse myself.
- When you feel agitation arise it is very important to move out of that train of thought. Let it go. Use your energy more productively that brings feelings and emotions of joy and happiness, there is no need to stay in a negative state.
- Life is so challenging and we all have judgments about other people and situations. I try to avoid conversations that engage in talking about someone else negatively. I usually bring up a response to shift the conversation to a positive state. Example: someone is talking about a friend or family member and things that don’t like, I would interject “have you tried talking to them about it?”, “what else can you do so you don’t continue to have these feelings?”. This changes the conversation to one of helping rather undermining. It is also a subtle reminder of the negativity. To live peacefully, we have to refrain from engaging in gossip, talking negatively about someone when they are not around.
- Learn to change the subject. When you’re around people that are gossiping or talking about someone, shift the conversation by asking one of them something about themselves. Change the focus of the conversation to something positive. This steps requires awareness. Recognize when the negative talk starts and shift to an uplifting message or topic.
- I am very committed to my core beliefs and never appreciate when someone tries to change who I am. With that being said, I extend that same respect to everyone else. This is when you use discernment to choose the people you want to associate with. If a conversation is leading to an argument or disagreement I just end it (refer to #1). If it seems just differing opinions but not hostile I work towards changing the subject (see #4).
- We all have to attend social settings or functions that require us to be around people that we typically have nothing in common and lack the ability to relate with one another. Before you leave for the function, internally set the intention to be one of good, don’t think about the things that can go wrong, intend to offer hope, love and joy will. If things get uncomfortable, simply excuse yourself, engaging will only bring you more suffering.
In closing, I just want to say how important it is to you, your personal resonance, to remain at peace, filled with joy and love. In doing so, we can be a strong calming force in a world that needs all the love and positive reinforcement we can offer. Choose to be a messenger of hope, love and peace.
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The only reason you ever want anything is because you think it will make you happier. By the time you get it, your mind has already come up with something else to want. This is natural and healthy if done in the right spirit. If not, it will keep you chasing fulfillment forever. The trick is to find your happiness in this moment and think of the rest as icing on the cake. It’s the cake that counts. ~ Jarl Forsman & Steve Sekhon – Bite Size Happiness Volume 1
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Are you in the habit of putting yourself down a lot? Do you focus obsessively on everything you do “wrong” but dismiss the things you’ve done right? Turn this around by making it a daily habit to emphasize your good qualities. Start praising and encouraging yourself in your self-talk. When you accomplish something good, congratulate yourself. Say things like, “Wow, I’m really proud of myself for doing that. It wasn’t easy, but I pushed through the rough spots and gave it my best shot.” Recite affirmations like these:
- I am a valuable person.
- I have a lot to offer the world.
- I’m talented and successful.
- I truly love myself.
- I deserve to be happy.
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Empowerment is the belief that you have the ability to control the course of your life. People who don’t feel empowered may have low self-esteem, feel unmotivated to go after goals and stop working toward happiness in their lives. You can empower yourself through emotional and physical activities that get you more in touch with how you affect your environment.
- Start by ensuring that you have the basic needs of food, water, shelter and a job. Fulfilling these basic needs gives you the certainty you need to feel in control of your life. If you don’t have these needs fulfilled, call your state’s welfare agency and/or job services to get started.
- Exercise and activity is another essential human need. If possible, walk or workout outside of the home where you will get some sun, nature and interaction with other people.
- If you average less than 7 hours of sleep each night, revise your schedule to meet this important need. Well-rested people have less stress and feel happier.
- Form a social support system that can help you when you feel powerless. If you already have close friends and family, take advantage of it and call them to get and give help.
- Think of past life events that make you feel powerless. Try to find a way in which they improved an aspect of your life. Accepting that life is full of mistakes and changes is part of being empowered. Uncertainty about the future is normal, and the ability to recover from mistakes and failures is essential for mental resilience and empowerment.
- Stop using the word “can’t.” It is the definition of powerlessness, because it states that you don’t have the ability to change or do something. Replace it with “won’t” or “don’t want to” which show that you have a choice in how you interact with the world.
- . It can be a goal, a feeling you want to achieve or a sentence that makes you happy. Repeat it whenever you start thinking or speaking negatively.
- For example, read and repeat quotes about empowerment.
- Stephen King said, “You can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will.”
- Mother Theresa said, “Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person.”
- Try meditation. Deep breathing and focusing on the present can clarify your thoughts and feel more control of your body and mind.
Determine if you are feeling weak because you recently achieved a goal. People often feel depressed or powerless after they have completed a hard-fought goal. Give yourself a few weeks to rest and then make new goals
- Make a change in your life. Pick something small you have wanted to change and make it happen. Several small decisions can be as powerful as one large life decision.
- Good changes might include commuting by walking or biking, cutting back on alcohol or cigarettes, getting up earlier, going to bed earlier, reducing time on the internet or a device, scheduling time for yourself or trying a new recipe each week.
Set short-term and long-term goals. Working toward something is the culmination of self-empowerment, because you must feel as though your actions will help you achieve something.
- Try a short-term goal like exercising 5 times a week for a month or increasing your productivity at work in small increments.
- Try a long-term goal like saving for a vacation or getting a certification.
Volunteer your time. Giving back to your community through a charity or a community organization will help you realize the power you have to affect the people around you. Schedule one hour a week or half a day each month to improve others’ lives and help them achieve their basic needs
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In continuation with The Happiness Attitude, we are looking at trusting ourselves. To have an attitude of happiness we have to have the ability to trust ourselves in making the right decisions that will create greater happiness and fulfillment in our lives. These decisions may not always be easy, but by choosing to believe in yourself and trust your inner vision, you play an active part in creating the life circumstances that will make you happiest. See how I changed my life, read my story, simply click on the image….
Find a way to incorporate this into the beginning of each day. I put little affirmations on my vanity mirror, my desk at work, in my car to ensure that I see them and affirm them. This is a Great One. “I find happiness in the smallest things, I am unmoved by conflict and I always demonstrate courage in the face of adversity.” See how I changed my life, read my story. CLICK HERE LEARN MORE ABOUT MY BOOK.