What if there were no such thing as failure?

Failing is a judgment that we humans place on a given action. Rather than judgment, substitute this attitude: You cannot fail, you can only produce results. Then the most important question to ask yourself is, “What do you do with the results you produce?” It is better to jump in and experience life than to stand on the sidelines fearing that something might go wrong.  Some 2,300 or so years ago, the great spiritual master Patanjali offered the kind of advice that resonated with me.  He said, “When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds, your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great, and wonderful world.”   So, when we step back and examine our limiting belief, we can recognize that nothing can stand in our way of our goals and dreams but us. By remembering that fear is the acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real, we can step past it and become who and what we want to be. The components of anxiety, stress, fear, and anger do not exist independently of you in the world. They simply do not exist in the physical world, even though we talk about them as if they do. Embrace faith and fear will withdraw from our lives.   See how I changed my life, read my story.  CLICK HERE LEARN MORE ABOUT MY BOOK.  

Clearly Thinking

82116 We have to get clear in our present life, we have to be honest with ourselves and those around us.  We can never move forward until we clear the junk from our past. When you are laying in bed trying to relax, how many voices and people are in there with you? When you are thinking about making a move forward in your life that you should have made years ago, what scary memories or fears are there that begin creating barriers?  Those  negative voices need to be silenced, and now. Clear out all of those doubts and fears. Let the past be the past. It’s time. You need some breathing room to think. Create some clear space and then you will know exactly what to do. See how I changed my life, read my story, simply click on the image.
     

Why We Make Bad Decisions

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We are all faced with challenges that require making difficult decisions. How we meet our challenges makes all the difference in the how things will unfold. We as humans have the ability to learn and change.  We react to challenges and situations coming from two places, a place of fear or a place of love.  We as humans can create our reality by choosing which of these two places our decision making will come from.  We normally react to situations and problems from an unconscious state, fear based.  But if we can become more conscious of our reactions, pausing and reflecting, we can move from a reactionary state to one of love.  Fear based emotions, anxiety, stress, fear, can distort our decision making, moving us to react from a fear-based state of unconsciousness.  So how do we train our minds so that we become more responsive and less reactive to life’s challenges?

  • Become aware of your emotions.  If you are feeling upset, angry, disappointed, etc., that is a good sign to remove yourself from reacting.  Living authentically means expressing your actual feelings, thoughts and desires, but we need to do this from a state of love, not reactionary based upon the emotions that have upset you.  When fear based emotions arise, that is a good indicator that you may need to step back and try looking at the situation from a different perspective, allowing you to make a decision that is coming from a place of love.
  • To prevent fear from stopping us in our tracks, we need to learn to relax our bodies, deepen our breathing, open up to feeling. Feel rather than think about your fear. Feelings of stress are generally rooted in a fear of an imagined physical or emotional threat (not being able to meet a deadline, or fear of failure, for instance), and stress can contribute to negative feelings like depression & anxiety that in turn can contribute to fear-based thinking.  Find ways like exercise and meditation to lower your stress levels and breathing techniques to calm down the nervous system.

The key to managing your challenges in life, is to learn to become more responsive to life and less reactionary.

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Starting Is The Hardest Part

courageStarting something new is almost always intimidating and frightening (or at least unnerving), isn’t it? Many a great ideas or projects have been put off because a person didn’t know how or where to begin, or they were too afraid to begin.  I have learned throughout my life that the start is literally the hardest part!

Once you take that first step and just get moving in the direction you want to go, every subsequent step after the first becomes easier, and easier, and easier…until you are fairly sprinting along toward the completion of your goal.

Whatever you wish to accomplish in your life, be willing to at least get started. Focus ONLY on the first step. Once that step is taken, focus on the next step. And then the next.

That is the simplest, easiest, and quickest way to achieve any goal.

Often times addressing deeper truths require outside assistance to gain new angles that resolve out the internal conflict a person is holding. I teach you how to release judgments that hold you back and then flare up later to diminish you. Are you struggling with something in your life?  Interested in working with me to get through it?  Learn more about my coaching  http://wp.me/P5YqLD-L4n 

Hate and Fear will Destroy Your Life!

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I am sharing a beautiful message from “365 Prescriptions for the Soul”, by Dr. Bernie Siegel today on releasing the past.

MANY OF US USE OUR PAINFUL PASTS as a good excuse

for accomplishing nothing. The pain can act as a dam that blocks the flow of your life or a painful burn that scars your existence. You can use the pain and let it become the energy and passion that move you. The choice of how you use it is yours. Release the dam and use the energy of the released waters to propel you. Use the heat and light created by the flame to warm you and illuminate your way. Have the courage to break down the barriers and move forward. It is easier to blame the past than to create your future. Where do you want to live: in the past or in the now, creating a better future?

Soulution of the Day

Hate and fear destroy life and keep us holding on to pain. Instead use the pain in your life to create something meaningful.

We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers — but never blame yourself. It’s never your fault. But it’s always your fault, because if you wanted to change, you’re the one who has got to change. —KATHARINE HEPBURN

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Give It Away

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The best way to experience power is to give it away.   You empower yourself when you empower others.  Support others by sharing your power, embrace one another rather than to over power one another.  Personal power comes from embracing spiritual values rather than just earthly values.  It comes from making kindness, love and compassion — toward oneself and others more important than power over others.  Only secure people give power to others.  Many  people derive personal value and esteem from their title or position. When either is threatened, they feel as if their self-worth is under assault. Accordingly, they will firmly resist anyone or anything that could reduce their status.  On the other side, a quote by Buck Rogers  “To those who have confidence in themselves, change is a stimulus because they believe one person can make a difference and influence what goes on around them. These people are the doers and the motivators.” These people are confident and seek to empower others.  Live your your life making others feel loved and good about themselves and you will assuredly feel the same way. If you want to explore empowerment further, simply click  on the image below.   Keeping You Empowered!

                     

Learn To Recognize Oppression

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I want to start by asking you this question:  “How many times have you seen someone being treated unfairly, at work, school, etc. and never said anything?”.  Tough to swallow I know.  Internalized oppression occurs when we take in and believe the misinformation, stereotypes, lies and prejudices a dominant group perpetuates about a target group.  To begin dismantling oppression is learning to see oppression. We can see it around us,  the fear, the hate, the ignorance, and the justifications, that live within all of us and acknowledge it, is the beginning of recognizing it. Simply learning how to be aware of them.  Then we move forward to owning and acknowledging the parts of ourselves that are oppressive, and that support the system.  If we ever want to overcome oppression, we have to be able to look deep within ourselves and be able to acknowledge to ourselves and others that we’re oppressive; and that oppression lives within ourselves.  Then move into courage, which is interrupting and acknowledging oppressive, hateful, and discriminatory thoughts, actions, and language both in the environment around you and in your own life. This is a subject I am very passionate about and hope that you found this informative and helpful.  “Understanding Privilege, Power and Oppression” is a great article, take the time to read it.  If you really want to make change in the world, you have to begin by understanding, then acting.  Keeping You Empowered!

“When a man is denied the right to live the life he believes in, he has no choice but to become an outlaw.”
Nelson Mandela

“Where justice is denied, where poverty is enforced, where ignorance prevails, and where any one class is made to feel that society is an organized conspiracy to oppress, rob and degrade them, neither persons nor property will be safe.”
Frederick Douglass

 

A Daily Affirmation……

find-happiness-in-simple-things-quote-1  Find a way to incorporate this into the beginning of each day.  I put little affirmations on my vanity mirror, my desk at work, in my car to ensure that I see them and affirm them.  This is a Great One. “I find happiness in the smallest things, I am unmoved by conflict and I always demonstrate courage in the face of adversity.”  See how I changed my life, read my story.  CLICK HERE LEARN MORE ABOUT MY BOOK.  

Don’t Make Assumptions ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

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I just love “The Four Agreements”.  This is one book that can transform your life.  I encourage you to read it.  Here is one of the Agreements from the book:  “Don’t make assumptions.   Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want.  Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.  With this just one agreement, you can completely transform your life.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz    See how I changed my life, read my story.  CLICK HERE LEARN MORE ABOUT MY BOOK.