Acceptance is the road to all change. If resisting has failed and frustrated you, try to accept what is. As hard as it is to believe, acceptance can open different opportunities for change than resistance. Struggling can sometimes swallow us even deeper into the quicksand of our problems. Difficult problems take time to resolve. The more frantically you pick at knots, the more entangled they can become. To untangle yourself try relaxing. Gently and patiently work with your difficulties and in time you will be freed from what now seems impossible. You are being called to heal yourself, not to agonize over your mistakes. Quit overthinking; this is what surrendering really means. Don’t focus on your problems and don’t obsess about “fixing” things. Avoid forcing “positive thinking.” These thoughts can be psychological irritants. Just leave yourself alone! When you pick at things, they never heal. Simply relax and give yourself some time. ~ Bryant McGill See how I changed my life, read my story CLICK HERE.
“The difference between what we do and what we are capable of doing would suffice to solve most of the world’s problem.”
“If I had no sense of humor, I would long ago have committed suicide.”
Mahatma Gandhi needs no long introduction. Everyone knows about the man who led the Indian people to independence from British rule in 1947. I wanted to share a few of his quotes to shift our thinking and help us move towards changing ourselves and in return we help to change the world. Here we go…..
- Changing Ourselves: If you change yourself you will change your world. If you change how you think then you will change how you feel and what actions you take. And so the world around you will change. Not only because you are now viewing your environment through new lenses of thoughts and emotions but also because the change within can allow you to take action in ways you wouldn’t have – or maybe even have thought about – while stuck in your old thought patterns. “You must be the change you want to see in the world.”
- You Always Have Control: What you feel and how you react to something is always up to you. There may be a “normal” or a common way to react to different things. But that’s mostly just all it is. You can choose your own thoughts, reactions and emotions to pretty much everything. You don’t have to freak out, overreact of even react in a negative way. Perhaps not every time or instantly. “Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”
- Forgive: Fighting evil with evil won’t help anyone. And as said in the previous tip, you always choose how to react to something. When you can incorporate such a thought habit more and more into your life then you can react in a way that is more useful to you and others. “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
- We’re Just Human: When you start to make myths out of people – even though they may have produced extraordinary results – you run the risk of becoming disconnected from them. You can start to feel like you could never achieve similar things that they did because they are so very different. So it’s important to keep in mind that everyone is just a human being no matter who they are. “It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.”
- Grow and Evolve:You can pretty much always improve your skills, habits or re-evaluate your evaluations. You can gain deeper understanding of yourself and the world.Sure, you may look inconsistent or like you don’t know what you are doing from time to time. You may have trouble to act congruent or to communicate authentically. But if you don’t then you will, as Gandhi says, drive yourself into a false position. A place where you try to uphold or cling to your old views to appear consistent while you realize within that something is wrong. It’s not a fun place to be. To choose to grow and evolve is a happier and more useful path to take. ”Constant development is the law of life, and a man who always tries to maintain his dogmas in order to appear consistent drives himself into a false position.”
This is one of my favorite quotes. I have learned the hard way, as I assume most of us do, that when I continually try to change something that is not in my power, I continue to experience the repeated aggravation, frustration and or disappointment. Why is this, because I obviously have not learned the lesson that I do not control the situation or have any bearing on the outcome. I think generally when we are in a position where we feel things are unfair or not right we resist it and fight it. Each time we do this, we are given the opportunity again to learn the lesson. Until it finally seeks in, you will continually be learning the lesson along with being aggravated, frustrated and disappointed. The moral for me is, I have to let it go, create my boundaries regarding the situation and move forward. I remember the day the light went off in my head regarding this one and I busted out laughing at myself that it took me this long to get it. I hope this helps you put things in perspective when you find yourself fighting a fight that is not yours to fight.
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Learning to love yourself is the most difficult journey a person could embark upon. There is no clean cut path to follow, no ready-made road map, and no one can travel that road for you. Your journey is one you ultimately travel alone. And it can be dark and scary, lonely even. Of course, there will be people who may steer you along the way, offering a hint toward the right direction when you are lost, but ultimately self-love begins and ends with you. Loving yourself requires that you get to know yourself—your flaws and failings, your fortes and fabulosities. The path to a strong sense of self and the acquisition of love for yourself goes hand in hand with that self-discovery. See how I changed my life, read my story, simply click on the image….