Empowerment Reflections is designed to help you focus on strategies and techniques for your personal growth and self improvement, using practical approaches to sustain your life balance.  My intention is to provide resources that you can use for deep and lasting transformation in your life.  Nothing from the outside can hurt, damage or destroy us without our consent.  When we perceive something as not good or good enough, we must go within and look at it peacefully and without judgment.   To change what we see, we must change what we feel on the inside.  How we see the world outside of us is truly a reflection of ourselves.  When we heal ourselves from the inside, we can help heal others.  Everything around us is a reflection of how we perceive the world.  All limitations you have are self-imposed.  The world does not begin from the outside, it begins from within us.  The way we see things is our power, we are the master of our own creation.  How you perceive the world is a reflection of you.  See how I changed my life, read my story.  CLICK HERE LEARN MORE ABOUT MY BOOK.  

A Mirror for your Beliefs





Are you triggered by rude and insensitive people? Do you hate it when people try to make you feel inferior or dumb?

It’s important to understand that people usually mirror our own beliefs back to us, and what they say and do has nothing to do with what they think about us – but what WE think about us.

The next time you encounter someone who appears to be putting you down for whatever reason, turn your focus within yourself. Which of your emotions and beliefs are being triggered by their attitude? Why does it unnerve you so much? What do your feelings reveal about your own beliefs?

It’s never about them, but it’s always about your own beliefs.

Today’s INTENTION: “Today I intend to have full awareness of my own limiting beliefs. I will see others as a mirror and use the images I see to adjust my own thoughts, feelings and beliefs, knowing that as I do, I alter the energy I emit to the universe, and ultimately, my own reality.”

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Starting Is The Hardest Part

courageStarting something new is almost always intimidating and frightening (or at least unnerving), isn’t it? Many a great ideas or projects have been put off because a person didn’t know how or where to begin, or they were too afraid to begin.  I have learned throughout my life that the start is literally the hardest part!

Once you take that first step and just get moving in the direction you want to go, every subsequent step after the first becomes easier, and easier, and easier…until you are fairly sprinting along toward the completion of your goal.

Whatever you wish to accomplish in your life, be willing to at least get started. Focus ONLY on the first step. Once that step is taken, focus on the next step. And then the next.

That is the simplest, easiest, and quickest way to achieve any goal.

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Limiting Beliefs


Are Your Beliefs Holding You Back?

Some of the most difficult obstacles you may face when you want to improve your life are limiting beliefs. Most of the time, you probably don’t even think about your beliefs, let alone understand just how much influence they have over everything you do.  Limiting beliefs have the power to stop you from making the positive changes you desire. They are subconscious programs running constantly in the back of your mind, conflicting with your desires and intentions. They can prevent you from wanting to make positive changes at all, or even if you can overcome that initial resistance, they can cause you to sabotage your efforts and slide back into destructive habits before you gain any significant momentum.  Very often, your beliefs about yourself, your abilities, and the way the world works are the culprits holding you back.  So, how do you know if you have some of these limiting beliefs?   You act in ways that are contrary to your goals.  You feel “stuck” much of the time.  Everything you try to do seems exceedingly difficult.  You keep sabotaging your efforts and can’t figure out why. Making positive changes in your life seems like it’s way harder than it should be!  Does any of this sound familiar?  Identifying and clearing limiting beliefs and replacing them with new, empowering beliefs is a process that can be learned. And it’s actually quite simple once you get the hang of it!

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The Art Of Not Taking Things Personally

   This is a meditation from “Living a life of awareness” by Don Miguel Ruiz, Jr.  “We do not need to defend ourselves or our beliefs against other people’s opinions and beliefs.  Our only need is self-respect.  When we have self-respect, we do not take what other people say and do personally.  If we give in to the temptation to make someone else’s actions a personal affront, we have lost that self-respect by saying yes to their agreement.  Once we do this, the attachment to this belief makes it necessary for us to switch our motive from one of defense to offense.  With one shift, we can easily go from being victim to aggressor, which has a whole new set of consequences.  By not taking things personally, we do not give in to our sense of personal importance and can therefore make decisions based on mutual respect, which will solve problems instead of making them worse.  Practice to become aware of your reactions today.  Through the practice of awareness, any perceived attack on you will fall off like a loose garment.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, Jr.

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Finding Peace

6602858769_652664f10a_zWith the Holiday Season upon us, I felt like finding peace was a wonderful topic.  I am sharing a daily meditation from “Living  a Life of Awareness” by don Miguel Ruiz, Jr.  I truly love this book.  Here is the meditation:

While our points of view may differ, we are all products of the same source. The only things that separate us are our attachment to our own point of view and the belief that others must share it. This is where we begin putting conditions on our love for one another, and this is the source of conflict. When you love unconditionally, it doesn’t matter if others agree with your beliefs. You let them be who they choose, because you know who you are and that allows you to respect all of creation. We have a word for this: It’s called peace. May peace be with you today.  Now lets put this mediation into practice:  Today, try to focus on loving others and their beliefs unconditionally— especially when they have opinions that may differ from your own. You know the feeling when someone listens and respects your perspective without judgment; extend that feeling of openness to others, and watch as peace enters.

Personally, I have attained such peace in my life by just allowing others to be who they are.  Rather than judge them or try to change them, I accept them.  I hope you found this to be beneficial to your Journey.  Below is some work of don Miguel Ruiz and his son.  Simply click on the image and explore.  Enjoy your Journey……. Darlene ♥

The Ego Is Never Complete


The Goals of the Ego

Our ego, or our sense of personal importance, is constantly trying to define itself to the world. It is fueled by a need to be right, to win, and to know everything. Any time you find yourself struggling, fighting, or arguing with others (and yourself), all in an effort to defend and maintain your beliefs and ideas, that is your cue that you have become attached to the goals of the ego, and now your ego is running your life. It is through these beliefs and ideas that the ego has constructed the story of “you”— so it’s no wonder defending them elicits such an emotional reaction. The ego builds itself on the belief that we are separate entities, disconnected from and in competition with one another. But nothing could be further from the truth. When you realize your inter-connectedness to all beings, the ego can no longer control you. The function of the ego is to keep the illusion alive.  Put your lesson into practice: With awareness, notice when you feel compelled to dominate those around you, either by aggressive or passive-aggressive means. When this happens, your ego is controlling your life. Remember that you are not in competition with others; we are all connected, and no one deserves to be dominated— not you and not anyone in your life. ~ don Miguel Ruiz, Jr.

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You Are The Creator Of Your Life

  Do you believe that you are a powerful creator in your own right? Or do you see yourself as a victim of both internal and external factors that are out of your control?  Do you often feel overwhelmed or frightened by your circumstances?  If so, you don’t really believe in your own ability to change them.  To turn this around, begin working daily on affirming your own power as a deliberate creator.  Remind yourself that your own thoughts, beliefs and emotions are what attract your circumstances, and you have the power to chose those, ALWAYS!My book is available now, read my story and see how I changed my life by changing my thoughts $11.99, simply click on the image.