Breaking Unwanted Emotional Reactions and Patterns

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Emotions contribute to our personal resonance and it is important to understand them if we want to apply the “Law of Attraction” to attain our dreams and desires.  There are 11 toxic emotions that sabotage our personal resonance.  You need to begin to understand them so that you can control them and remove the negative energy they bring to your resonance.  Look at each one and give it some thought.  This will take time for you to begin to understand but with practice it gets clearer and clearer.  With every emotion we have, nobody can make us feel like that, we are doing that to ourselves.  Any action someone does that creates these emotions within us, we have to start asking questions to why we are allowing this.  Here they are:

  1. Hurt – victimization, helplessness, blame – Express your pain and responsibility, stop being the victim and blaming others, forgive them and yourself and make the decision to let it go.  Hanging onto it only keeps it alive.  Remember the decision to let go may include letting go of that person too.  These are the tough questions we have to ask ourselves with hurt, are we going to continue to allow this, am I willing to trust again?
  2. Sadness– self-pity, regret – We all face sadness in our lives but the only way to move past what happened is to accept it.  Acknowledge it, honor it and make the decision to continue living.  Anytime you resist something, it will remain there.  Holding onto a sadness is selfish, you’re telling the universe it is not fair, this should not happen to me, but life is not fair, it happens to all of us.  Change your attitude, and push through your pain.
  3. Shame– humiliation, embarrassment – Shame requires our forgiveness.  We all make mistakes and if we’re willing to acknowledge them and to do what is necessary to make amends, then there should be no more shame.  Society and domestication are the triggers that leave this lingering emotion hanging over our heads, but that is not the truth it is a lie.
  4. Hopelessness– loneliness, despair, desperation – Nothing is as bad as it ever seems.  If you are willing to be honest with yourself and others, there are avenues to get you through any situation.  When we stay stuck in hopelessness, it is because the situation is not what we want, but unfortunately it is the situation you have in your life at that moment and you have to accept it to move past it.
  5. Fear– anxiety, panic, immobilization – You know what I ask myself when I am faced with a fearful thought?  “What is the worst that can happen”?  I have never gotten an answer to that question that I have not been able to deal with.  Unless you’re in imminent danger, you have to realize and understand that your fear is only a thought.  You have to be willing to love yourself enough to face your fear.  Each time you move through a fear thought, you get stronger.
  6. Anger– resentment, bitterness – Moving past anger is a process much like hurt.  You have to stop the blaming and victimizing and look at the situation and take action.  Express yourself and then decide if you can forgive and live with this or do you need to move past this situation or person.  Every emotion we have requires responsibility to resolve them.
  7. Hate– meanness, vengefulness – Hate is not healthy and will only lead you to a place of self-destruction.  You have to release hate, you cannot hold this emotion in.  Begin analyzing it and why you feel this way.  The most valid argument about hatred is that it is pointless.  When you bind yourself to hatred you will be miserable.
  8. Jealousy– envy, possessiveness – Much like hate, jealousy is destructive.  You have to begin to analyze why you are jealous and with those answers, be honest with yourself.  If you’re jealous, you are binding yourself to something you don’t have and in doing so, will spoil the things you do have.
  9. Pride– better than, self-righteousness – This is your Ego in control.  If you value others on the same level as you value yourself, there should be no issue with pride.  Pride is your Ego wanting to be right. When there is conflict and difference, this does not mean you have to accept the others point of view.  Express yourself and stand by your point of view.  Prides resonance energy is shame, which is a negative vibration.
  10. Greed– insatiability, emotional hunger – Greed is nothing more than an endless desire to get more and more things in life.  Greed has a negative impact on us because it tells us we do not have enough and we are not enough.  As far as your resonance goes, when you are constantly wanting and thinking about what you want, you are not appreciating what you have and therefore project a negative energy of lack.
  11. Guilt– self-blame, false responsibility – Guilt is much like shame, it requires our forgiveness.  You are in a constant state of judging your failures and flaws.  You have to accept responsibility for what you did, try to make it right if you can, and then let it go.  If there are people in your life that want to bind you to a mistake, then you might want to consider removing them from your life.

Again, the only way any of this will help you is if you are willing to be honest with yourself.  Here is one of my favorite quotes to inspire you to be honest with yourself.

It is only when we have the courage 
to face things exactly as they are,
without any self-deception or illusion,
that a light will develop out of events,
by which the path to success may be recognized.

This is taken from my course “Mastering The Law of Attraction by Understanding Your Personal Resonance”.  If you interested in the entire course CLICK HERE.  The course covers the following:    There are six modules to go through to help you become more conscious of your thought patterns and what to focus on to help you make positive changes to raise your vibration (which is the energy you are projecting into the universe).

  1. Understand what your personal resonance is.
  2. How your Ego controls your thoughts and how to recognize it.
  3. Understanding Toxic Relationships.
  4. Becoming the observer
  5. Break unwanted emotional reactions and patterns.
  6. Use of Affirmations.


 

28 Days to a Positive Life

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Psychologists say that it takes at least 28 days of focused activity to establish a new habit, so if you want a new attitude or behavior to become a real part of your life, you need to make it a priority every day for at least four weeks.  This is true for your thoughts and behaviors, and it holds true for changing your energetic vibration as well.  The laws of magnetism and consciousness-created reality indicate that the experiences you attract are largely determined by your personal resonance, so taking control of your daily energy will be well worth your consistent efforts. By increasing your awareness of your thoughts, behaviors, and emotions, you can make more conscious decisions about the energetic direction of your life. Even small shifts in your daily activities can create a huge difference in your happiness and your results.  There’s one important truth that many people seem to dismiss concerning this process, however. In terms of achieving your goals, whatever they may be, it’s your full life force— not just your individual intentions— that will determine your results. You can desire something all you want, but if you don’t support that desire with your energy and consciousness every day, you won’t be able to propel your goal into Universal manifestation.  Here are a few of the videos regarding this course:

Day 1 CLICK HERE

Day 2 CLICK HERE

Day 3 CLICK HERE

To see more of my videos CLICK HERE.

If you would like a PDF Free copy of this course, simply email me at darlene.j.robbins@gmail.com and I will be happy to send it to you.

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Keeping You Empowered!

 

How Your Ego Controls Your Thoughts

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It is important to understand what your ego is and when it is in control in order for you to master your thoughts.  Your ego is the image you have of yourself.  Your social mask, the face you put on for the world.  Your titles and roles (mother, daughter, sibling, friend, colleague, etc.).  I like to think that our Ego is the structure in our brain that gives a “personal identity”, it serves a very practical purpose for physical interaction with others.  Becoming Self-Aware requires that you master recognizing your ego and that you understand your ego is a functional part of your mind, instead of the essence of who you are.  The challenge of being aware of your ego is that your mind has been programmed for you to believe it (your ego) is you.  Your ego is something you have to live with but you don’t have to listen to it or believe what it has to say.  Your soul is your spirit, the essence of your true self, who you really are deep down below all the labels, roles, expectations and masks we have created.  Your soul never changes, you were born you and will forever be you.  Inherently you are divine energy from the Universe.  Your very existence in this world is what makes you beautiful, valuable and amazing.  Remember your Ego is false and anytime your Ego is in control you are projecting false (negative) energy into the Universe.  This is from my course “Mastering The Law of Attraction, by Understanding Your Personal Resonance.”

In this course I will teach you how the following topics affect your thoughts, emotions and reactions which directly affect your personal resonance.  There are six modules to go through to help you become more conscious of your thought patterns and what to focus on to help you make positive changes to raise your vibration (which is the energy you are projecting into the universe).

  1. Understand what your personal resonance is.
  2. How your Ego controls your thoughts and how to recognize it.
  3. Understanding Toxic Relationships.
  4. Becoming the observer
  5. Break unwanted emotional reactions and patterns.
  6. Use of Affirmations.

Interested in this course CLICK HERE.     See how I changed my life, read my story.  CLICK HERE LEARN MORE ABOUT MY BOOK.  

How To Start A Meditation Practice

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Many people try to start a daily meditation practice, but they never get started because they think that there are rules to follow or they worry they are not doing it right. There is no right way to meditate. And there are so many wonderful benefits to it. We become calmer, we think more clearly and make better decisions and our stress levels decrease tremendously. Meditation love and supports you each day and is also where we can manifest miracles in our lives.  At least once a day I sit quietly, breathe deeply and go within to connect with that deep, inner, unchanging part of myself. Here resides wisdom and knowledge. Meditating is a joy for me as I connect with my inner place of tranquility. I always come back to the present moment refreshed and renewed and ready for the rest of my day.  You can start with a simple 5 minutes in the morning or in the evening, whichever works best for you.   Dim the lights, light a candle if you wish, put on some meditation music and sit quietly and allow yourself to just be for the next 5 – 20 minutes.  Don’t worry about the time, just keep doing it, your practice is your practice so never compare it to someone else’s.  It is about slowing down and connecting with yourself and letting the outside noise go.  Affirm with me… The serenity and safety I seek is already within me.

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What You Resist……

91116Whatever you resist, persists! If you have a persistent issue, condition, problem, or challenge in your life that you can’t seem to resolve right now, do your best to avoid pushing against it, resisting it, fighting it, or trying to make it go away. It will only get stronger.

Instead, practice the art of acceptance. Accept that the issue is here right now. Not forever, just for right now. Say to yourself, “I’d love to make this go away, but since I can’t right now, I’m going to make peace with it. I’m going to accept that this is just something I need to go through, and I’m going to trust that it will improve when the time is right.”

Taking this approach often releases a ton of emotional tension and resistance, which can soften the intensity of problems and create pathways to solutions that you couldn’t see when you were so busy trying to push the problem away.

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A Mirror for your Beliefs

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Are you triggered by rude and insensitive people? Do you hate it when people try to make you feel inferior or dumb?

It’s important to understand that people usually mirror our own beliefs back to us, and what they say and do has nothing to do with what they think about us – but what WE think about us.

The next time you encounter someone who appears to be putting you down for whatever reason, turn your focus within yourself. Which of your emotions and beliefs are being triggered by their attitude? Why does it unnerve you so much? What do your feelings reveal about your own beliefs?

It’s never about them, but it’s always about your own beliefs.

Today’s INTENTION: “Today I intend to have full awareness of my own limiting beliefs. I will see others as a mirror and use the images I see to adjust my own thoughts, feelings and beliefs, knowing that as I do, I alter the energy I emit to the universe, and ultimately, my own reality.”

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Acceptance Is The Road To All Change by Bryant McGill

9416Acceptance is the road to all change. If resisting has failed and frustrated you, try to accept what is. As hard as it is to believe, acceptance can open different opportunities for change than resistance. Struggling can sometimes swallow us even deeper into the quicksand of our problems. Difficult problems take time to resolve. The more frantically you pick at knots, the more entangled they can become. To untangle yourself try relaxing. Gently and patiently work with your difficulties and in time you will be freed from what now seems impossible. You are being called to heal yourself, not to agonize over your mistakes. Quit overthinking; this is what surrendering really means. Don’t focus on your problems and don’t obsess about “fixing” things. Avoid forcing “positive thinking.” These thoughts can be psychological irritants. Just leave yourself alone! When you pick at things, they never heal. Simply relax and give yourself some time. ~ Bryant McGill    See how I changed my life, read my story CLICK HERE.

Acts of Determination

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We have the power to set our intentions on the betterment of our world. The very “least” among us has the enormous power to effect change through small acts of determination and will. We can each immediately liberate ourselves as victims in the world, through solidifying an intent to act; intent to forgive; intent to love; intent to be caring, polite and empathetic. Then, with that clear intention set into motion through the simplest first actions, we will begin to liberate ourselves from victimization, thereby creating an entirely new perspective and future. It all starts with how you look at the world, and forgiveness and love are integral to the process of healing. There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love. Every soul is beautiful and precious; is worthy of dignity and respect, and deserving of peace, joy and love. You will be a beautiful person, as long as you see the beauty in others. This is how you change everything. To have our needs met, to love, to be loved, to feel safe in this world and to each know our purpose, is a simple matter of creating those blessings for others. We have the power to choose these virtues, rather than choosing violence, rage, anger, revenge, greed and other base impulses of the lower-self. We may know our true purpose in life, because we may choose our purpose in life. Our purpose is to be there for one-another. Giving is the master key to success, in all applications of human life.  See how I changed my life, read my story,  click on the image…

Stress Is a Desire of the Ego

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The Ego is at work when you are experiencing stress or anxiety.  Stress is familiar and tranquility is unfamiliar, so your Ego desires stress.  Truly the only stress and anxiety we experience in the world is derived from our thoughts, which create false beliefs.  Think about this, you can’t package stress, you can’t touch it and you can’t see it, you only think it.  When we allow our thoughts to be come stressful thoughts, we create reactions in our bodies that are valuable messages or signals requesting our attention.  To work on combating stress in your life, is at the moment you realize you’re thinking stressful thoughts, immediately discontinue your inner dialogue that’s causing the stress and in mastering this technique, you can prevent physical symptoms to arise from the stressful thoughts.  Remember, “thoughts are the Ego’s back of tricks”.  In closing, remember to pay attention to how you are feeling.  Feeling bad lets you know that you’re not connected to your inner source, your power of intention in your life.  See how I changed my life, read my story, simply click on the image….
    

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Your Thoughts Are The Key To Happiness

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Happiness isn’t some thing in the material world that can be acquired and stored and used when needed or wanted. If it were, I’d give you a lifetime supply that would guarantee a happy life. No—happiness is an attitude that comes from within you. It’s accessible when you place in your imagination an I am statement that reflects your melody, with the simple truth that happiness is indeed an inside job. Happiness is an inner belief that you bring to everyone and everything you undertake, rather than expecting your happiness to come to you from others or from your accomplishments and acquisitions.  There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way. State your intention to live a happy, contented life; place it squarely in the most prominent place within your imagination, and live from that place as if it were your reality. When circumstances and/or your five senses try to influence you that you’re wrong, gently and with loving confidence let the fearful thoughts drift by like passing clouds as you focus on your nourishing imagination, which cannot be altered without your agreement. Neville speaks without hesitation on this matter: “The promise is definite that if you are shameless in your impudence in assuming that you already have that which your senses deny, it shall be given unto you—your desire shall be attained.”  See how I changed my life, read my story, simply click on the image….