To help you move toward forgiveness ask yourself this question. “Why do I want to feel the way I feel when I think about that person or situation”. That was a profound question for me. It made me realize that not forgiving only created suffering for me. I cannot and will not believe that anybody wants to feel anger, betrayal, vindictiveness, utter heartache, etc. I began by thinking that if I forgive and let it go than the other person does not get any satisfaction, but the truth is, I learned that we touch others when we can move to a place of forgiveness. That gentle peace that you give someone else by letting them know you have forgiven them is probably one of the most divine precious gifts that you are able to give someone and it may result in transforming their life for the better. Which person do you want to be, the angry victim or the divine soul that opened someones heart. I choose the later. This does not mean you have to forget the act. I know for me personally, the mistakes I have made were because I did not know how to cope or ask for help due to shame, guilt and fear and I suspect that is the same place others come from with their mistakes. Here are some of the best forgiveness quotes I have read, my favorite is the third one by Marianne Williamson. Let me know which is your favorite.
“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.” ―Nelson Mandela
“Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it.” ―Maya Angelou
“The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world.” ―Marianne Williamson
“If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive.” ―Mother Teresa
“If her past were your past, her pain your pain, her consciousness your consciousness, you would think and act exactly as she does. With this realization comes forgiveness, compassion, and peace.” ―Eckhart Tolle
“Forgiveness is an act of self-love.” ―Don Miguel Ruiz.
“Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive.” ―Wm. Paul Young
“The spike of defensiveness we feel when someone advises us to ‘forgive and forget’ shows how deep our pain has burrowed. Although the people who advise us to do this may have the best intentions, forgiveness cannot be done on command.” ―Sharon Salzberg
“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.” ―Oprah Winfrey
“The act of forgiveness takes place in our own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person.” ―Louise Hay
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