The Path of Least Resistance

The shape and quantity of your thoughts determine the amount of resistance.  Thoughts that generate bad feelings are resistant thoughts.  Any thought that puts a barrier between what you like to have and your ability to attract it into your life is resistance.   Your intention is to live a tranquil life, free from stress and anxiety.  Stressful thoughts are a form of resistance, we keep the suffering alive by holding onto the thoughts.  Begin a practice of removing thoughts of resistance by becoming aware of them.  When you notice that you are obsessing or holding onto thoughts that create suffering, shift your energy.  Get out a book and get your thoughts preoccupied.  I personally find that music will easily shift my energy and thoughts to more peaceful and joyous thoughts.  I also use affirmations to drowned out the noise in my head.  One of my favorites is “this is not happening now, I am only thinking it.”  Think about that.  We allow our thoughts to take us to a place of the unknown, we are just assuming this or that will take place.  One of the greatest books on changing your thoughts and shifting your energy I have read is by Wayne Dyer, “The Power of Intention”.  I hope that you found this helpful.  Keeping You Empowered!  See how I changed my life, read my story.  CLICK HERE LEARN MORE ABOUT MY BOOK.    Sign up for my newsletter and learn to look at the world differently.

What if there were no such thing as failure?

Failing is a judgment that we humans place on a given action. Rather than judgment, substitute this attitude: You cannot fail, you can only produce results. Then the most important question to ask yourself is, “What do you do with the results you produce?” It is better to jump in and experience life than to stand on the sidelines fearing that something might go wrong.  Some 2,300 or so years ago, the great spiritual master Patanjali offered the kind of advice that resonated with me.  He said, “When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds, your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great, and wonderful world.”   So, when we step back and examine our limiting belief, we can recognize that nothing can stand in our way of our goals and dreams but us. By remembering that fear is the acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real, we can step past it and become who and what we want to be. The components of anxiety, stress, fear, and anger do not exist independently of you in the world. They simply do not exist in the physical world, even though we talk about them as if they do. Embrace faith and fear will withdraw from our lives.   See how I changed my life, read my story.  CLICK HERE LEARN MORE ABOUT MY BOOK.  

Discernment In Lieu of Judgment

The principle of learning how to discern/choose rather than judge is an important one in regards to whether we achieve happiness in life, or not. Discernment is about deciding how you’ll respond to get the maximum benefit out of the situation. It’s about accepting the situation, through reflecting upon it and asking yourself “Why is this happening, and what can I learn from it?” When you judge someone, it results in pain. You hurt yourself and the thing or person you are judging.  When you judge, it is usually because you feel emotional about someone or something, what they represent or what you feel they have done to you. Judgments develop out of an attempt to make sense of your life, especially as it applies to your relationships and the world around you. Judgments become “negative” to the extent they are based upon fearful notions that have been set into motion because of unresolved pain and suffering. Discernment is the power behind the choices you make according to the truth of who you really are. Discernment lends a hand to your need to grow and expand, and your need to know what is happening in your world right now.  The journey from judgment to discernment is the promise of consciousness to honestly meet and learn about all aspects of worldly and relational existence. It is the free will and power found within the healing, as consciousness works to correct and integrate the pains of the past. Discernment is to recognize or identify as separate or distinct. Judgment is to form an opinion after careful consideration. When you judge a situation, person, or place or even an idea without tempering it with wisdom and kindness, it becomes assumptions, this gets us in trouble. In closing, judging is not a learning approach to life. Even if the situation is unpleasant, it may be the very thing that will give us the learning that we need to advance. There are hidden complexities to life and as human beings we don’t have the insight, knowledge or understanding to judge.

“It’s your birthright to live life your way. When others do things you don’t like, take note without making them wrong. If it really bugs you, take action without making them wrong. Wrong to you may be right to them. And vice versa.”

~ Jarl Forsman & Steve Sekhon, Bite Size Happiness

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Empowerment Reflections is designed to help you focus on strategies and techniques for your personal growth and self improvement, using practical approaches to sustain your life balance.  My intention is to provide resources that you can use for deep and lasting transformation in your life.  Nothing from the outside can hurt, damage or destroy us without our consent.  When we perceive something as not good or good enough, we must go within and look at it peacefully and without judgment.   To change what we see, we must change what we feel on the inside.  How we see the world outside of us is truly a reflection of ourselves.  When we heal ourselves from the inside, we can help heal others.  Everything around us is a reflection of how we perceive the world.  All limitations you have are self-imposed.  The world does not begin from the outside, it begins from within us.  The way we see things is our power, we are the master of our own creation.  How you perceive the world is a reflection of you.  See how I changed my life, read my story.  CLICK HERE LEARN MORE ABOUT MY BOOK.  

The Empowering Contemplation of Healing

11616The body and mind respond to the quality of thoughts and emotions we place our emphasis on.  When we understand this, we can begin to heal.  We have a choice as to what thoughts, feelings and emotions we will agree with and encourage to remain alive within our mind.  This powerful choice allows the beginning of healing or the continuation of suffering.  Healing comes when we connect our body and spirit as a whole, we have to cultivate harmony throughout our body, the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual all need to be in alignment to aid in healing.  Balancing the body strengthens the immune system and maintains our physical well-being.  This is from the chapter “Empowering Contemplation’s” from my book.  See how I changed my life, read my story.  CLICK HERE LEARN MORE ABOUT MY BOOK.  

What You Resist……

91116Whatever you resist, persists! If you have a persistent issue, condition, problem, or challenge in your life that you can’t seem to resolve right now, do your best to avoid pushing against it, resisting it, fighting it, or trying to make it go away. It will only get stronger.

Instead, practice the art of acceptance. Accept that the issue is here right now. Not forever, just for right now. Say to yourself, “I’d love to make this go away, but since I can’t right now, I’m going to make peace with it. I’m going to accept that this is just something I need to go through, and I’m going to trust that it will improve when the time is right.”

Taking this approach often releases a ton of emotional tension and resistance, which can soften the intensity of problems and create pathways to solutions that you couldn’t see when you were so busy trying to push the problem away.

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A Mirror for your Beliefs





Are you triggered by rude and insensitive people? Do you hate it when people try to make you feel inferior or dumb?

It’s important to understand that people usually mirror our own beliefs back to us, and what they say and do has nothing to do with what they think about us – but what WE think about us.

The next time you encounter someone who appears to be putting you down for whatever reason, turn your focus within yourself. Which of your emotions and beliefs are being triggered by their attitude? Why does it unnerve you so much? What do your feelings reveal about your own beliefs?

It’s never about them, but it’s always about your own beliefs.

Today’s INTENTION: “Today I intend to have full awareness of my own limiting beliefs. I will see others as a mirror and use the images I see to adjust my own thoughts, feelings and beliefs, knowing that as I do, I alter the energy I emit to the universe, and ultimately, my own reality.”

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Acts of Determination








We have the power to set our intentions on the betterment of our world. The very “least” among us has the enormous power to effect change through small acts of determination and will. We can each immediately liberate ourselves as victims in the world, through solidifying an intent to act; intent to forgive; intent to love; intent to be caring, polite and empathetic. Then, with that clear intention set into motion through the simplest first actions, we will begin to liberate ourselves from victimization, thereby creating an entirely new perspective and future. It all starts with how you look at the world, and forgiveness and love are integral to the process of healing. There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love. Every soul is beautiful and precious; is worthy of dignity and respect, and deserving of peace, joy and love. You will be a beautiful person, as long as you see the beauty in others. This is how you change everything. To have our needs met, to love, to be loved, to feel safe in this world and to each know our purpose, is a simple matter of creating those blessings for others. We have the power to choose these virtues, rather than choosing violence, rage, anger, revenge, greed and other base impulses of the lower-self. We may know our true purpose in life, because we may choose our purpose in life. Our purpose is to be there for one-another. Giving is the master key to success, in all applications of human life.  See how I changed my life, read my story,  click on the image…

Clearly Thinking

82116 We have to get clear in our present life, we have to be honest with ourselves and those around us.  We can never move forward until we clear the junk from our past. When you are laying in bed trying to relax, how many voices and people are in there with you? When you are thinking about making a move forward in your life that you should have made years ago, what scary memories or fears are there that begin creating barriers?  Those  negative voices need to be silenced, and now. Clear out all of those doubts and fears. Let the past be the past. It’s time. You need some breathing room to think. Create some clear space and then you will know exactly what to do. See how I changed my life, read my story, simply click on the image.

Our Mistakes are Opportunities for Growth

81816Ever hear the saying “change the way you look at things and things you look at change”?   This quote carries so much truth and I want to share with you how knowing this and practicing it can change your life.  Throughout our lifetime, we will make mistakes. We’ll accidentally take the wrong turn, maybe say the wrong thing or do something we weren’t supposed to. Mistakes are a part of life. No one is perfect and everybody makes them. But sometimes we dwell on these mistakes. We let them control our thoughts and perceptions of who we are. We let them define our worthiness and we feel like failures.  Mistakes do not define who we are. If we change the way we think about our mistakes, they can actually help us in our self-growth and change our lives. Let’s start thinking about our mistakes as lessons. Not lessons that put us down or make us feel bad about ourselves, but a lesson to see how we can improve upon our life or what we can learn to become better human beings during our time on earth. It’s good to be constantly growing, so our mistakes, no matter how big or small, can help us do this. I want you to start thinking of these as positive experiences.  In any situation where you feel you made a mistake, think about what you can learn about it and change for next time. That thought right there is a move forward in life; a personal growth step. We cannot succeed in life without failing a little bit first. We have to keep trying until we make it. So when we start thinking of our failures as small successes in the right direction of where we want to be, our outlook on life changes. We become more confident and positive things constantly begin to take place.  We are in charge of creating our own happiness. So the sooner we start looking at things in a positive way the sooner we can be glowing with happiness. Please don’t hold on to past mistakes. Take a second, learn from the lesson, smile and go forward.  Life is a continuous chance to learn and make progress. And that is what makes it fun! Forgive yourself and others, but don’t forget. Learn from your mistakes, but don’t regret. Your mindset is at the heart of your success.  Keeping You Empowered…. Darlene

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