How to Identify Unconscious Beliefs

72116The Law of Attraction states that you will attract to yourself those experiences that match your beliefs. These beliefs create your experience of reality. What if these beliefs are in opposition to what you’re actually trying to accomplish? What if they no longer serve you? Wouldn’t it be useful to eliminate these limiting beliefs?

Part of “knowing yourself” is understanding your beliefs. The difficulty is that most beliefs are subconscious. They have been accepted without ever having been critically examined.  After all, most people have accepted these beliefs as true and don’t want to hear anything that might contradict what they believe is true. Remember, you are not your beliefs. You are a divine spiritual being, so why hold onto anything that is preventing you from realizing this truth? So here’s the secret.

Look around. Whenever you have a repeating problem in some area of your life, then that is where you have a false or limiting belief. This doesn’t mean that just because you’re in between relationships or jobs, you necessarily have a false belief. But if the problem constantly reappears, then you can be 99% certain a false belief is involved. Avoid the temptation to blame someone for inserting this false belief into your belief system. After all, you could easily point fingers at your parents, teachers, friends, TV, etc., as well as yourself. It’s not important where it came from, you just want to be rid of it, so you can experience your ideal life.

You have two choices here. You can 1) identify your unconscious beliefs and release them, or 2) learn to recognize the symptoms of accepting this limiting belief and change your thoughts. You can also do a combination of the two.

Choice 1) – identify your unconscious beliefs and release them
Your attitudes will help you to identify your false beliefs. Let’s say you want more money. What is your impression of wealthy people? Are you happy for them or resentful? If you’re resentful, then what signal do you think you’re sending out to the universe? You don’t want anything to do with those “rich people!” Consequently, the Law of Attraction states that you won’t attract wealth into your life.One way to free yourself of a negative belief is to write it on a piece of paper and burn it while telling yourself it is forever banished from your being. Write a positive affirmation on another piece of paper such as “Good people can have money.” You can add other affirmations, such as “I am worthy of prosperity” and “Money flows easily to me.” Repeat these affirmations aloud 9 times a day for 21 days. This is the length of time it takes to reprogram your instinctive mind, where these beliefs are stored.Choice 2) – learn to recognize the symptoms of accepting a limiting belief
Recognize that your goal is make sure that you are always sending out the proper vibration so that you attract to yourself the experience you desire. The best barometer of whether you are sending out the proper signals is to MONITOR YOUR EMOTIONS. If you’re not feeling good, then you need to change your thoughts, because the emotions that are being felt, indicate your thoughts are sending the wrong message. Incidentally, this process of substituting thoughts will work for any thought, including a memory. If you have any unpleasant memories, you can substitute imagined positive experiences for them. Mystics call this Mental Alchemy, after the old alchemists that transformed lead into gold. Eventually, you’ll get to feel joy more and more frequently and for longer periods of time.

In both cases, you have substituted positive thoughts and feelings for negative ones. You may recognize this involves a degree of self-observation.

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Don’t Let Anyone Dull Your Sparkle

dont-let-anyone-ever-dull-your-sparkle-quote-2Feeling unworthy and unlovable and assuming that others will reject you are symptoms of trauma. This is especially true if you were abused, neglected, or rejected in early childhood. Self-blame for the trauma leads to the belief that you must have done something bad to deserve the punishment.

Of course this is an untrue and very sad belief. However, this is how trauma survivors organize their memories of their painful experiences. These feelings can lead to learned helplessness, a psychological term for giving up and not even trying. This can cause depression, when you stop caring what happens to you. If you want to change your life, but it seems like too much effort and seems futile, because you doubt anything will change, here are some processes that may help:

Take it one step at a time: It’s overwhelming to think of doing a lot, but it’s manageable to think of doing one thing right now. Focus upon what you’re doing in the moment, and the future will take care of itself.

• Focus on healing, not shaming: Facing your issues is a way to heal them, not to beat yourself up over them. It’s like peeling an onion: we all have issues we’re working on, one layer at a time.

Detach from diagnoses: Avoid identifying yourself as a broken person. Instead of saying “I am anxious,” use the more detached phrase “I am feeling anxious.” The construction I am identifies you with the condition, which makes it more difficult to heal, while I am feeling signifies a temporary condition and not your identity.

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Gifts To Help Us Grow








Hard lessons are gifts to help us grow
Not punishments for things we’ve done wrong.  God is never vengeful, his love is pure and true. Be at peace, Always ask, “What can I learn here?”  Sometimes you have to die a little on the inside first in order to be reborn and rise again as a stronger, smarter version of yourself.  You will fail sometimes.  The faster you accept this, the faster you can get on with being brilliant.  Emotionally separate yourself from your problems. You are far greater than your problems. You are a living, breathing human being who is infinitely more complex than all of your individual problems added up together. And that means you’re more powerful than them – you have the ability to change them, and to change the way you feel about them.  Don’t make a problem bigger than it is. – You should never let one dark cloud cover the entire sky. The sun is always shining on some part of your life. Sometimes you just have to forget how you feel, remember what you deserve, and keep pushing forward.  Everything that happens is a life lesson.  Everyone you meet, everything you encounter, etc. They’re all part of the learning experience we call ‘life.’ Never forget to acknowledge the lesson, especially when things don’t go your way. If you don’t get a job that you wanted or a relationship doesn’t work, it only means something better is out there waiting. And the lesson you just learned is the first step towards it.  View every challenge as an educational assignment. – Ask yourself: “What is this situation meant to teach me?” Every situation in our lives has a lesson to teach us. Some of these lessons include: To become stronger. To communicate more clearly. To trust your instincts. To express your love. To forgive. To know when to let go. To try something new.  Life is so much easier and wonderful when we make the choice to see and perceive things from a different perspective.   See how I changed my life, read my story, simply click on the image…..

5 Little Things To Help Change Your World


“The difference between what we do and what we are capable of doing would suffice to solve most of the world’s problem.”

“If I had no sense of humor, I would long ago have committed suicide.”

Mahatma Gandhi needs no long introduction. Everyone knows about the man who led the Indian people to independence from British rule in 1947.  I wanted to share a few of his quotes to shift our thinking and help us move towards changing ourselves and in return we help to change the world.  Here we go…..

  1. Changing Ourselves:  If you change yourself you will change your world. If you change how you think then you will change how you feel and what actions you take. And so the world around you will change. Not only because you are now viewing your environment through new lenses of thoughts and emotions but also because the change within can allow you to take action in ways you wouldn’t have – or maybe even have thought about – while stuck in your old thought patterns.  “You must be the change you want to see in the world.”
  2. You Always Have Control:  What you feel and how you react to something is always up to you. There may be a “normal” or a common way to react to different things. But that’s mostly just all it is.  You can choose your own thoughts, reactions and emotions to pretty much everything. You don’t have to freak out, overreact of even react in a negative way. Perhaps not every time or instantly.   “Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”
  3. Forgive: Fighting evil with evil won’t help anyone. And as said in the previous tip, you always choose how to react to something. When you can incorporate such a thought habit more and more into your life then you can react in a way that is more useful to you and others.  “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
  4. We’re Just Human:  When you start to make myths out of people – even though they may have produced extraordinary results – you run the risk of becoming disconnected from them. You can start to feel like you could never achieve similar things that they did because they are so very different. So it’s important to keep in mind that everyone is just a human being no matter who they are.  “It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.”
  5. Grow and Evolve:You can pretty much always improve your skills, habits or re-evaluate your evaluations. You can gain deeper understanding of yourself and the world.Sure, you may look inconsistent or like you don’t know what you are doing from time to time. You may have trouble to act congruent or to communicate authentically. But if you don’t then you will, as Gandhi says, drive yourself into a false position. A place where you try to uphold or cling to your old views to appear consistent while you realize within that something is wrong. It’s not a fun place to be. To choose to grow and evolve is a happier and more useful path to take.  ”Constant development is the law of life, and a man who always tries to maintain his dogmas in order to appear consistent drives himself into a false position.”

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Sharing Wisdom

UntitledToday is a special day for me, it is my niece’s 17th birthday.  I so want to find a way to share true wisdom of life with her, but I also recognize that she has to learn this on her own.  I personally feel there is too much pressure on the youth in today’s world, society deeming how we should live.  Very few people truly know exactly what they’re doing. There’s no set age to have it all figured out. Most of us are just making it up as we go along.  How do we help them discover who they are and what they truly enjoy in life is the gift I would love to give her.  We have to earn money to live, so I believe that is the most fundamental thing we can teach a child, to discover and explore who they are.  I want her to have confidence to go out into the world and be who she is, not what she feels she has to emulate to fit in. Even where a young adult is able to make choices, the society’s attitude to commitment makes it very difficult to give everything to the choice. Our society encourages an image of commitment as ‘old-hat’ or ‘too limiting’ of our personal freedom. This prevents young people from really entering into their choices fully and stops them from gaining the insights about their true identity that only commitment can bring.  They desire so strongly to know who they are, but the attitudes they learn from our society prevent them from living in a way that could best give them what they most want.  There is too much emphasis on “what others think and how will that look”, instead of helping them find themselves.  The last point I want to make is probably the most destructive of all. Within our society we go to enormous lengths to avoid pain. Yet pain is a natural consequence of fullness of life and love. So in the end we find ourselves avoiding life and love, even though they are the two things most sought by young people-and all of us. We need to be teaching children how to deal with pain and to understand that there is a reason for pain, rather than trying to make sure everything in life is just joy, because that is not true by any means.  I don’t want her to live “going through the motions”, I want her to thrive.  I want her to love her life!  If you know someone who would benefit from this article and help them explore looking at things from a different perspective please share with them.  Here a few questions to ask a young adult.  Remember the question does not require an answer, so ask it in a way that is simple conversation, the idea is to get them thinking about it.  I certainly wish I would have had more guidance in this area.

  1. Where are my current habits taking me?  Your daily routine today, if pursued continuously, says a lot about where you will end up in the future.  
  2. How are my relationships affecting my outlook and outcomes?  It is so important to encourage positive conversation and outlook on life.  Refrain from those that engage in negativity.
  3. Is my current path one that will lead to future happiness?  Don’t just “go with the flow.” Sometimes, what makes us happy today is exactly what will make us miserable tomorrow (and the long-run future).
  4. What kinds of virtues do I wish to embody and uphold in my life?  This really pertains to a broader question of: “what kind of person do I want to be?” Look inward to determine what kinds of traits you’d like to embody and make a conscious effort to cultivate, hone and apply those traits.
  5. Am I really living in accordance with MY own ideas and preferences?  Finding clarity of one’s life purpose is the only way to optimize your happiness, and it’s better to do it sooner than later, while significant life choices and the changes which may accompany them are still feasible.

If closing, I hope that I have imparted the importance of conscious, thorough and relentless examination of one’s life in order to seek answers that will help guide somebody to become the best version of themselves. The actual questions that one will ask him/herself will vary, which is perfectly understandable.

Explore Who You Are!

524I think one of the most effective ways that we can explore who we truly are is to ask ourselves thought provoking questions and then explore them.  Now before you rush to choose  the memory that was the most painful or the most embarrassing or the one you still have to cope with, make sure, because when you erase the memory, you erase the wisdom and lesson that you learned from the experience.  Makes it a bit more interesting doesn’t?  For me it would have to be not going to see my dad in the nursing home as he was dying.  I did not go because of any bad reason, I had visited him on a regular basis the year he was there, it was only because it was too hard.  I got the call and totally shut down, did not want to experience the pain, but now I know that is what life is.  Please share yours with me, I would love to get to know you better!  Keeping You Empowered!  Below are some books if you want to explore and understand yourself better!

Breaking Free from Difficult People


How do we navigate our way through the fields of difficult people in a mindful, peaceful way?  Anything you do to improve your life always has to with looking at yourself, because you are the only thing you can control.  We all deal with the stress and difficulties of the world, but how can we do this without being robbed of our joy and sanity?  Here are ways that I try to deal with people that I find difficult to deal with.

  1. Realize when you’re dealing with an unreasonable person is to keep your composure. Trying to alter their point of view or explain is mute.  I will not engage in a conversation that is one sided.  I usually politely say “I don’t think you and I will see eye to eye on this and because I respect your opinion, I think we should just let this be.”  I then politely excuse myself.
  2. When you feel agitation arise it is very important to move out of that train of thought.  Let it go.  Use your energy more productively that brings feelings and emotions of joy and happiness, there is no need to stay in a negative state.
  3. Life is so challenging and we all have judgments about other people and situations.  I try to avoid conversations that engage in talking about someone else negatively.  I usually bring up a response to shift the conversation to a positive state.  Example:  someone is talking about a friend or family member and things that don’t like, I would interject “have you tried talking to them about it?”, “what else can you do so you don’t continue to have these feelings?”.  This changes the conversation to one of helping rather undermining.  It is also a subtle reminder of the negativity.  To live peacefully, we have to refrain from engaging in gossip, talking negatively about someone when they are not around.
  4. Learn to change the subject.  When you’re around people that are gossiping or talking about someone, shift the conversation by asking one of them something about themselves.  Change the focus of the conversation to something positive.  This steps requires awareness.  Recognize when the negative talk starts and shift to an uplifting message or topic.
  5. I am very committed to my core beliefs and never appreciate when someone tries to change who I am.  With that being said, I extend that same respect to everyone else.  This is when you use discernment to choose the people you want to associate with.  If a conversation is leading to an argument or disagreement I just end it (refer to #1).  If it seems just differing opinions but not hostile I work towards changing the subject (see #4).
  6. We all have to attend social settings or functions that require us to be around people that we typically have nothing in common and lack the ability to relate with one another.  Before you leave for the function, internally set the intention to be one of good, don’t think about the things that can go wrong, intend to offer hope, love and joy will.  If things get uncomfortable, simply excuse yourself, engaging will only bring you more suffering.

In closing, I just want to say how important it is to you, your personal resonance, to remain at peace, filled with joy and love.  In doing so, we can be a strong calming force in a world that needs all the love and positive reinforcement we can offer.  Choose to be a messenger of hope, love and peace.

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Be Where You Are


Life can only be found in the present moment.  Have you ever noticed that most conversations are about the past or the future?  How often do you just sit with someone and talk about what you are doing at that moment?  When the mind is scattered it takes a tremendous toll on our mental and physical energy.  How often do you bring your full awareness to the present moment?  Experts agree that focused attention is a powerful ingredient in the recipe for personal effectiveness.  To make full use of your potential to achieve virtually any goal, you must be the master of your own attention. It’s not enough to simply put your attention where you want it. You have to be able to keep it there until the job is done.  There is one law of the mind, this law is that whatever you pay attention to is what you become conscious of. So if you never really pay any attention to how your mind works, you will never have conscious control over it.  Once you begin to try and understand and pay attention to your mind, you come to see its positive and negative tendencies. You come to realize that your identity is not your thoughts and mind, your true nature is beyond that.

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Mastering Today – A Journey To Freedom


Hello, my name is Darlene Robbins and I would like to personally invite you to “Mastering Today”  I live in Fort Walton Beach Florida and I am on what I call a “Journey To Freedom”.  My journey began in 2009 when I began to study The Universal Spiritual Laws, The Law of Attraction and more,  which has enlightened my life so much by recognizing the mind/body connection.  Through the teachings,  I have learned to live in the moment and avoid trying to control people, things or situations that are out of my control.  My goal is to reach others and help them realize this.

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Give It Away


The best way to experience power is to give it away.   You empower yourself when you empower others.  Support others by sharing your power, embrace one another rather than to over power one another.  Personal power comes from embracing spiritual values rather than just earthly values.  It comes from making kindness, love and compassion — toward oneself and others more important than power over others.  Only secure people give power to others.  Many  people derive personal value and esteem from their title or position. When either is threatened, they feel as if their self-worth is under assault. Accordingly, they will firmly resist anyone or anything that could reduce their status.  On the other side, a quote by Buck Rogers  “To those who have confidence in themselves, change is a stimulus because they believe one person can make a difference and influence what goes on around them. These people are the doers and the motivators.” These people are confident and seek to empower others.  Live your your life making others feel loved and good about themselves and you will assuredly feel the same way. If you want to explore empowerment further, simply click  on the image below.   Keeping You Empowered!